An Epiphany From First Class

First Class

One of the best perks of my job is that I get to pretend to be a rich person.

Well, not all the time of course. Like I definitely did not feel rich these past 2 weeks: Staying late in the office, eating at my desk, slaving over Excel sheets till I started dreaming of VLOOKUP commands, and feeling absolutely miserable.

So I got really happy when I got to take a break from it all to fly First Class to Beijing for a work trip. I sipped a glass of champagne, slid down into the overly spacious fine-grained leather seat, and stared out into the setting sun. “I could get used to this life.” I thought, as the flight attendant poured me another glass of champagne.

Being Rich – Gangnam Style

Fast forward to two days later, I was back in Singapore and pretending to be rich again. This time, I was at the Turf Club, entertaining 20 clients who were rich enough to fly First and Business Class on a regular basis and splurge copious amounts of money betting on horses.

I got talking to one of our guests. She was elegant, Irish, and wore a lovely dress with a tasteful set of pearls. Her husband was a Managing Director in an MNC. I could tell she was actually rich (ie: not one of those executives who gain elite status on their company’s money), because she ordered a Coke instead of alcohol. Classy.

We were watching the horses being led out to the track, when she lamented, “I would love to be rich enough to own one of those horses and not have to work so I could train them every day!”

I stared at her as if Justin Bieber had just crawled out of her nostrils. I thought to myself, “Lady – You get to savor the champagne-filled heaven that is First Class every couple of weeks! And you think that you’re not rich enough???

The Law of Relativity

And then it struck me: Being rich is RELATIVE.

That is, relative to who you compare yourself to. When I was a penniless college student, I used to get jealous of alumni who had real jobs and were earning thousands of dollars a month. Now that I was one of them and wallowing in my Excel-induced state of misery, I found myself getting jealous of people who were earning tens of thousands of dollars a month and flying First Class on a regular basis. But they in turn were feeling jealous of other people whom they thought were richer than them. It was mind-boggling, but it made sense.

The truth is, being rich is just a state of mind.

It really doesn’t matter how much money you make or how big your bank account is. I’m not saying that we should all just be happy in poverty – everyone should strive towards a life where they’re not worrying about making ends meet. But it’s a waste of time and energy to feel jealous of someone else’s (perceived) material fortunes.

Instead, I challenge you to start feeling rich right now. Think about how lucky you are to have higher education when there are millions of people who don’t even make it to high school. Think about how great it feels to have the security of a regular job, three meals a day, and a bed to sleep in while others are struggling to make ends meet.

I know it sounds corny, but we often don’t notice how rich we really are.

First Class

Yesterday, I took my family out to lunch. The restaurant was half-empty, served cheap Chinese food, and there were no leather seats with mahogany trimmings or unlimited quantities of champagne.

But the food was tasty, the company was excellent, and my dad was gleeful as hell because the opposition party had just won the Punggol East by-election. I leaned back, patted my Chinese food-filled tummy, and savored how wonderful life was.

So who needs to pretend to be rich? I don’t. 🙂

How To Never Have Monday Blues Again

The Mondays after a long weekend or a vacation are the worst. You get into the office, and it’s like walking into the set of Night of the Living Dead. Everyone is a freakin’ zombie: blank eyes, slack mouth, and shuffling (not the LMFAO kind). This week started with one such Monday – we had a public holiday on Thursday, so most people took time off on Friday to enjoy an awesome 4-day weekend. The Monday hangover was especially severe.

I was feeling a little out of it myself on my way to work (totally losing control here – 2 glasses of wine is enough to destroy me… and I’m only 27). My Kindle had mysteriously stopped working which only served to annoy the hell out of me. So out of boredom, I turned to YouTube and scrolled to SNL’s classic Can I Have Yo Numba? video. Okay it’s not like the funniest video in the world, but it made all the difference:

It made me smile.

Everything changed after that. I got off the bus feeling considerably lighter than when I got on. That brought on another smile because I thought about the awesome things coming up in life: a stable salary, an upcoming holiday, and great-tasting coffee in the morning for 65 cents. Grinning, I stepped into the coffee line and breezed a cheerful “good morning!” to a colleague. She looked at me like I was crazy and exclaimed that she’d never seen anyone so cheerful on a Monday morning.

Behavior –> Motivation

It sounds clichéd, but smiling really does work, even if it’s forced. In 2002, researchers led by Robert Soussignan performed an experiment where participants were asked to grip a pencil horizontally between their teeth, naturally activating the muscles used for smiling. The participants had no idea that the experiment was about happiness, but reported considerably more positive reactions to several videos they were shown.

Say you attempt a fake smile. Just try it. Right now. Go ahead, I’ll wait.

Does your brain know that you’re faking it? Of course it does. But that action tricks your body into producing chemicals that make you feel happy anyway. It’s a textbook case of how your actions can trigger internal motivations – not the other way round.

By the way, this applies to saving and investing too. Most people wait for years to get the “motivation” to save and invest, and end up never starting because “willpower” never works. The truth is, all they had to do was get started – to save and invest as little as $50 a month. Once you get started, your body adapts itself to towards the action you’re performing, developing an “investor mindset” that triggers further investing behavior.

A System To Destroy Monday Blues

So – back to Mondays. I know, it sucks to go to work on a Monday after you’ve partied all weekend (Or in my case, had TWO WHOLE GLASSES of wine. Yeah, you know party rock is in tha hoouuusseee toniiiiight). But if you’ve gotta be at work for the next 5 days anyway, you might as well try to enjoy it, right? So SMILE. You’ll feel happier. And it’s been proven that happier people do better work, are more effective, and are more likely to succeed.

One tip: Set up a system to remind yourself to smile. Yes, it’s corny, but it works. Simply set a daily reminder to SMILE on your phone’s calendar to go off at the same time every day – I set mine to coincide with the lowest point of motivation in the day: walking from the bus to the office. My phone buzzes, I let out a huge grin, and the day automatically becomes awesome after that.

Try it out 🙂